What’s the secret for making a marriage last? Here are three basic principles.
1. Make the commitment together that divorce is never an option. When both spouses agree to this, they discover other options when life gets really hard and the marriage feels like it’s falling apart. There are always other options, even when divorce feels like the only escape route from suffering.
2. Never retaliate. When your beloved hurts you, use boundaries, not retaliation. This protects you while it leaves the door open for healing and reconciliation. Retaliation comes naturally, but it’s the devil’s weapon. Forgiveness might take a while, so the decision to never retaliate must happen at the very moment when hurt begins.
3. Cling to Jesus, the beloved who never hurts. The beloved who always understands. The beloved who has the power to help you love when you don’t feel like loving, to empower you forgive when forgiveness is hard, and to give you hope when healing and reconciliation seem impossible.
© 2014 by Terry A. Modica